Build relationships with students based on trust and mutual respect
Suggestion for implementing the strategy ‘Foster positive relationships and partnerships’
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Build students up
Build students up
Hamish describes the positive impact of a teacher knowing him well.
He also describes the negative impact of a different teacher’s behaviour.
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Ensure every student is known
Ensure every student is known
Reflect on what you know about the students you teach.
If there are gaps in your knowledge, make a plan to fill them.
Use this list as a prompt.
For Māori students, learn about their tribal structures and cultural practice:
- whakapapa (genealogy)
- who they consider to be whānau
- tikanga – cultural values and practices they use (language, customs, traditions)
- about their marae.
People in the student’s life:
- important people in the student’s life
- who lives at home
- the best methods and times to communicate with parents and whānau
- education or medical professionals that provide support
- who can give support for learning at home.
Practical elements:
- language/s spoken at home
- medications and allergies
- access to wifi and technology at home
- part-time jobs and responsibilities at home.
Personal preferences:
- their likes, their interests, what they’re good at, and what they need help with
- their dislikes, what can upset them and how they express this, and their calming skills
- their favourite hobbies, books, songs, sports and TV programmes.
Hopes and aspirations:
- short and long term goals
- ideas for work
- future dreams.
Aim for robust relationships
Aim for robust relationships
Reflect on the impact of your relationships with students.
How can you increase both support and challenge?
Use student information intentionally
Use student information intentionally
Consider how well you know and understand your students: their whakapapa, interests, passions, strengths, sensitivities, and differences.
Reflect on how you use that information to:
- congratulate a student on an achievement outside school
- make personal connections to a student’s whakapapa
- create opportunities for students to share and develop gifts and talents that could remain hidden in school
- share a kind word when a student is feeling low
- eliminate or minimise situations that may cause unnecessary stress
- identify the student’s personal signs of stress or unhappiness and intervene early
- have a timely conversation with a student about what you have noticed and how to develop coping strategies
- more accurately interpret wider classroom/playground behaviour and pre-empt potential areas of conflict.
Reflection questions
Reflection questions
What would students say about the quality of your relationship with them?
Consider these questions from the Wellbeing@School student survey.
Reflect on your responses.
- Teachers are interested in my culture or family background.
- Teachers and students care about each other.
- Teachers are interested in my perspectives and views on the world.
- Teachers think all students can do well.
- Teachers treat students fairly.
- Teachers often praise students for helping each other.
- Teachers care about how I feel.
Source: Wellbeing@School Student survey: Intermediate & secondary (opens in a new tab/window)
Useful resources
Useful resources
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Positive youth development in Aotearoa. “Weaving connections – Tuhonohono rangatahi”
Read time: 87 min
This Positive Youth Development in Aotearoa (PYDA) framework seeks to explore the confluence between the various approaches to PYD documented in local and international literature, with the grass roots experiences of young people and organisations in Aotearoa / New Zealand.
Publisher: Wayne Francis Charitable Trust
Student survey: Intermediate and secondary
Multi-choice wellbeing survey for students years 7–13.
Publisher: Wellbeing @ School
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Having a teacher mentor
A past student reflects on a teachers’ ability to get to know them and the difference it makes.
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- Build collaborative relationships with families to support learning, safety, and wellbeing
- Support positive peer relationships
- Model positive and caring teacher-teacher relationships
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- Anticipate, monitor, and plan for responding to child stress
- Strengthen student identity
- Teach stress management, anxiety and coping skills
- Offer relaxation options and downtime activities
- Teach how to recognise emotions and options for expressing feelings
- Providing support following traumatic experiences
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